i haven’t yet encountered an AP that is capable of providing all of the features that i currently use. ie ad blocking; personal vpn;
Pfsense does both of these. pfblocker NG in particular is a very powerful network adblocker with lots of lists. Pfsense can also run VPNs, it supports openvpn and wireguard in both client and server mode and you can set up multiple so one client, one server.
web hosting; and cloud-like internet accessible storage via ssh tunnel (in addition to others).
If you just need personal services it would be best to run something local, setup a wireguard tunnel on pfsense that gives access to your network and VPN in to access things remotely. If you need to share with others I suppose this can become a problem.
I don’t care about Nazis switching to Linux and neither should you. Not a good look.